What was your resolve for the New Year? Better eating habits? More time at the gym working out? Get back in the dating scene? All of these sounds great. They are healthy and appear to be steps towards creating your best self. But why is it so freaking difficult to keep these resolutions active? Why do we continue to make them year after year knowing they have a very low success rate? Maybe its because we like to hear ourselves say good things. The things that (we think) impresses others and somehow make us look good in the moment. Or maybe it really is our authentic self, peeking through the veil of potential barriers, gauging whether it’s safe to pursue this higher self. Contemplating if I should pursue this ideal self publicly and have other’s opinions attached to my epic success or to my shameful failure? No, no, no. Maybe I will have my resolution as a private goal. Full control, no pressure and no accountability.
Is your family gathering bland? Are you tired of doing the same old hello, good to see you, let's eat and goodbye? Spice up you next family gathering with these easy to implement, thought generating, life expanding ideas.
That was the most powerful statement I heard last week as I listened in on a panel discussion about “Branding”. Leadership from across this company formed a panel discussion focused on helping aspiring leaders build their personal brand through effective networking. The panelist gave examples of how they practiced excellence over their career span. They shared how they identified those things that worked and perfected them to get the results they expected. Although the “HOW” varied, the “WHY” did not!
NETWORKING, RECEPTION OR COCKTAIL HOUR.....Are you prepared?
Tray service is usually found at upscale events such as receptions, networking events and cocktail hour. Servers move around the room offering crudités (small serving of vegetables or meat that has a dipping sauce) and canapés (bite size piece of bread or pastry with a savory topping) to guests. The server will offer a cocktail napkin before presenting the selection of items on the tray. The guests should not refuse the napkin and still choose an item from the tray.
When we (my girlfriend) are dining out and sharing an appetizer, she double dips. Should I say something about it?
Yes! Yes! Yes! You should say a lot of things, not just “some” thing. Double dipping is as tacky as the person who raises the serving utensil to his nose and sniffs the food in a buffet line. Who hasn’t seen the double dipping episode of Seinfeld? That is classic etiquette 101.
Education is often the ladder that allows an individual to migrate from one social class into another. That transition alone comes with a different set of etiquette practices and cultural expectations. How well you incorporate the different etiquette practices and expectations into your life-style will determine whether you “fit in” or if you “belong”.
Terry Brooks-Allen, BS
Etiquette & Image Consultant
Terry Brooks-Allen is one of central Indiana's top ten leading Etiquette Specialists and Image Consultants, coaching and training
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